It's like writing about the principal Jacob was so scared of must have conjured up some bad mojo. I got a call from Jacob's teacher today that he got into a little bit of trouble. Apparently they use this card flip system (I say "apparently" halfway through the school year because Jacob has never had the need to bring up their classroom behavior management system before) and Jacob went from green to yellow and then in Spanish class - to red.
What are the horrors that happen at Red? You have to spend 5 minutes of your recess talking to the teacher and "debriefing" about what happened. OMG! Tragedy!
Well, I guess Jacob got really upset, didn't eat lunch, stayed out in the hallway, wouldn't talk to the teacher, the (different and seemingly very friendly) principal, or the guidance counselor.
So, I'm at a loss. On the one hand - Yay! He doesn't like to be in trouble (which is a good thing, right?). OTOH - he freaked out about a relatively minor consequence. Like, is that so terrible? Why all the anxiety?
He hardly bats an eye at consequences at home. In fact, he often weighs them against his behavior ("hum..... this is super fun, but is it no-minecraft-for-the-rest-of-the-weekend fun?"); so I know he doesn't harbor some secret fear of getting in trouble with us when he gets home from school.
And since he's in trouble at school relatively infrequently, I had hoped he'd simply outgrown this. Or, maybe now that he knows getting in trouble at his new school does not mean the world comes spinning to a stop - the next time won't be as bad? I dunno.
Sometimes I think it might be nice to take some traits in the kids and average them. Like - subtract a little "trouble anxiety" from Jacob and give it to Allison. In exchange, take some of the "Oh is that all? No biggie" from Allison and give it to Jacob.
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